Why You Still Feel Tied to People You Don’t Even Talk To Anymore

You ever wake up out of nowhere, thinking about someone you swore you were done with? Not even in a “I miss them” kind of way, but in that weird, nagging way where their name, their face, their laugh just slides into your brain like they never left? It doesn’t even make sense. They’re not around. You’re not checking for them. But still, there they are.

That’s not nostalgia, or you being weak, or secretly wanting them back. That’s a cord.

Cords don’t give a fuck about time, or distance, or whether or not you blocked their number. They’re sneaky little bastards, running between your body and theirs, feeding off attention, memory, and old emotions. And the worst part is that you don’t even have to want the connection anymore for it to stay alive. All it takes is the residue of what was.

I see it in sessions all the time. A client books, and they swear they’re over their ex, that toxic friend, the boss who drained them dry—and I believe them! Consciously, they’re done. But once I start scanning their energy, that person’s energetic signature is still there, hanging on like mildew in a bathroom you thought you scrubbed clean.

It’s not dramatic. It’s not fireworks. It’s just this constant hum, low-level static, eating away at your clarity. You might not notice it until I pull it, but once it’s gone, you feel like you’re breathing your own air again.

Cords don’t care about your intentions. You can write a letter, burn it, sage your whole damn apartment, cry, scream, declare yourself free a hundred times over. And all of that has value—I’m not knocking it. Rituals can soothe the soul. But cords live in the body, in the energy field, where logic doesn’t reach. You can’t “decide” them away. They have to be removed.

That’s where cord pulling comes in. Cutting a cord is like clipping a weed at the stem—satisfying for a minute, sure, but give it some time and it grows back. Pulling is about getting to the root and unhooking the entire thing, so there’s no chance for it to latch on again. When I’m in a session, it’s not just one and done. I scan you multiple times, because new cords like to show themselves once the first layer is gone. I pull every last cord I find, and I don’t stop until your energetic field is clear.

And it’s wild, what happens after! Suddenly, that person you couldn’t stop thinking about goes quiet. That random sadness that kept creeping in, dissolves. The heaviness you thought you’d have to carry forever finally lifts. It’s like your system gets to rest, because it’s no longer busy carrying ghosts.

People love to talk about “closure” like it’s a conversation you have, or a final text you send. But closure is energetic. It’s the moment your body no longer responds to someone else’s pull. It’s silence where there used to be noise. And that silence is freedom.

That’s why cord pulling is woven into my Goddess’s Renewal session. Because it’s not just about one attachment, one person, one situation. It’s about returning all of your energy to you—cleansed, cleared, and untangled. And babe…once you’ve felt that, you can’t go back.

So if you’ve been wondering why you still feel tied to people you don’t even talk to anymore, that’s why. It’s not weakness, or obsession. It’s energy. And energy can be rewritten, reclaimed, and pulled right out of you until you’re finally free to move without someone else dragging behind you.

That’s the work that I do.